As a naive single young adult, it didn’t occurred to me then the Rotaract induction ceremony has certain similarity with my (eventual) matrimony session in front of the Registrar of Marriage. Ironic but (really) true...
In my last article, I brought forward the notion on how we can utilize our Kindergarten experience (and lessons learned) in our Rotaract journey; and I’m about to share my views here on how Rotaractors are deemed to have taken their commitment vows to the ideals of Rotaract.
Stage 1: Prior Marriage (Guest or Non-member)
The freedom from commitment is apparent at this juncture. We come and go as we wish. Dating Rotaract was a past time or perhaps hobby. We were pampered and treated with much admiration. We either continue to date or proceed to other pursuits.
Stage 2: Newly Weds (Just inducted)
The sense of belonging has built in, and the reasoning to do what is right settles in. We were inducted. Life is about to change as we have been promised. It does change. New responsibilities and commitments were presented, right about the end of our honeymoon.
Stage 3: Married for a year
It’s time to plan for the future. Visions are laid and objectives are set. Decisions are to be made once again. Opportunities are presented, so those duties, expectations and risks. We are full of zest in our pursuits on what we deserve and belong. Life is such an exciting journey!
Stage 4: Married for 3 years
Reality starts to settle in. Responsibilities, duties and expectations are either becoming an annoyance or a positive alliance to commitment and discipline. To some, it’s the beginning of a hundred possibilities and promises, and to others it marks the existence of excuses and avoidances.
Stage 5: Till 30 do us part (Retired)
Our marriage to Rotaract is determined by a pre-concluded matrimony contract which expires when we reach the age of 30. When we are desperately still in love with Rotaract, this is a painful stage. Otherwise, it is a convenient exit to a time-bound contractual commitment.
Rotaract is designed as such, and I must agree (personally), having to depart with such a meaningful organization at the age of 30 is both heart-breaking and a blessing in disguise. Now, I can claim I will have more time for my ‘second’ wife and my new baby.
